The Absolute Best? Just a Beautiful Illusion!

Behind the Mask of Perfectionism

For a long time, I believed we could make the best decisions, at the best time, and become the best version of ourselves. But when I take a step back and look at life from a distance, I see something clearly: there is no such thing as the absolute best.

Not in me, not in you, not in anyone!

When I was younger, I thought if I did everything perfectly, life would be easier. I believed that perfection was a final goal — something I could reach. But over time, I learned that perfection is not a destination. It’s a direction. It’s a journey that never really ends.

Perfectionism was always part of how I worked. It helped me improve my projects — from web design to marketing and even writing a short email. But it also made me wait too long to start things, because I felt they were not “Good Enough”.

Later, I understood something important: perfection is not a goal — it’s a way of thinking. It gives us motivation, but it never has a final point. Because when we think we’ve reached the best version of ourselves, we stop growing.

The truth is, “The Best” is always changing. The best idea today might be useless tomorrow. Our best self today might not be enough in the future. So what really matters is not being the best, but trying to become better. That small voice inside us that says, “You can do more,” is what keeps us moving — even when it feels hard.

Perfectionism shapes who we are. It makes us people who like order, feel uncomfortable with unfinished things, keep checking small details, and often feel unsatisfied with ourselves. We take too much responsibility and find it hard to forgive mistakes — especially our own.

These habits make us focused and reliable. But they also bring problems like overthinking, stress, fear of failure, and difficulty enjoying the present moment.

If we don’t manage perfectionism, it pulls us away from “Now”. Our mind lives in the future — in a cleaner, better version of today. And we miss the beauty of the process because we’re waiting for perfect results.

But if perfection doesn’t really exist, why do we still run after it?

This is a philosophical question. A long time ago, Plato said that everything we see in the world is just a shadow of a perfect idea. We never see the perfect version — only its reflection. Perfectionism is similar. We imagine a better version of ourselves — more successful, calmer, smarter. This version is always a few steps ahead. We never catch it, but it keeps us moving forward.

You might think the top of perfectionism is when everything is perfect. But I believe the real top is when we accept our imperfections. When we know we are not perfect — and that’s okay. We can still grow, and we can still continue.

True perfectionism is not about control; it’s about balance. It’s when the wish to be better does not stop our progress. It’s when we see mistakes as lessons, not failures.

In my own life, I’ve built things, changed direction, failed, started again, and learned. And now I believe something simple: becoming is more important than being.

So if someone asks me, “Are you the best at what you do?” I smile and say, “No, but I try to be better every day.”

This story is not finished. I’m still learning. I still hear that inner voice that says, “Try Again”. But now, I walk with it — step by step, in my own rhythm, with all the flaws.

Not to become the best — but to keep going!

Location: Andalusia, Spain

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